1. Romantic infatuation where something clicks like you've known them forever, but this is really just your unresolved family dynamics interacting with their unresolved stuff as well. This aspect comes and go quickly so you need to learn to let this go
2. Sexual polarity is the sizzle: we are attracted to those with the most opposite sexual trait <when first see others, they are either: neutral, repelling, or inviting>. You can tune this in like a radio <turn the dial down if you are with someone who is not your sexual partner, turn it up with your partner to magnetize it>.
3. Heart connection / oneness … Love is the sense of oneness with another … connectiveness beyond the mind and emotions … your sense of self dissolves
According to Satyen, our masculine side values freedom then connection; our feminine side values connection then freedom.
3 stages of masculine:
*Macho … rigidity … all spine but no heart
*Get in touch with female side … personal growth … heart centered … no spine
*Strong heart <connected to a purpose and joy and humor> … strong spine <courage and still wants to make partner happy too … living at my edge with my heart fully … no regrets> … present … strong … grounded to earth … a presence … walk their talk … full of lightness, connection and humor ...
3 stages of feminine: <feelings … emotions … always changing depending on what comes at you … texture … taste … wind and water>
*Insecure and dependent and helpless … any kind of love … just make me happy
*Women's movement … reject oppression … growing strength and independence … tough minded … equality = 50/50
*Recognize that superficial is not important … find love that is yearning to be liberated … awaken and claim inner feminine goddess <loves surprises and to surrender> … full spectrum … true integrity … share feelings … love … devotion … anger … enjoys her body … likes being ravished … gentle … sweet nourishing … sexy … sultry …
You can change when you have new insight … then it becomes a joyful project to work on with your partner. Since the feminine is more invitational and the masculine is more directional, if a feminine female is giving directions <even if she is better at directions>, this creates depolarization. A better solution is for the female to offer a loving and playful invitation like "maybe we can find something hot if we turn here" rather than appear bossy. Hmmm ... so maybe that's what I have been doing wrong all these years! Another insight was that if a male complains about lateness, they are forcing a time value on someone who is just trying to look good for them. Definitely worth considering ...
My favorite tip: Don't say you are single … say you are available … it creates a space for your partner to come in. So let it be known ... "I am available."