Fears are simply feedback from our inner selves, so we need to respond to the unmet need that triggers them. By giving in to fear, we are giving away our personal power. Don’t automatically judge fears as bad, just become aware and explore what is going on. What is the fear trying to tell you? Are you in danger? If so, be thankful for its discernment and protection. Is more knowledge needed? Then get it. Fear is a choice, and totally valid if we are in danger but a hindrance if it doesn’t allow us to grow and stretch and take informed risks. Fears can isolate us if we are afraid to admit that we are afraid. Finding a trusted individual that you can talk to is valuable when you need help figuring it all out.
Is it an old tape playing in your head that someone else put there when you were a child? Then you need to learn to act rather than react, and I have found affirmations help to re-program your response to fear. In the process we don’t ask for help, but gratefully accept that we have already overcome the fear. For example, if we procrastinate out of our fear of failure, we can say: “I intuitively know what to do first, and I am guided in all subsequent steps by my higher self. I receive all the support that I need in order to complete this project.” You can further cut this down into a mantra: “My intuition guides me in all steps to completion.” Do not use negative words <like not, no, etc> because the universe doesn’t hear the “not.” Instead of “I will not procrastinate” say “I will easily finish my taxes on time.” You can also use visualization and see yourself at the end, reaping the rewards of having finished the project. Another thing you can do is to “feel the fear, but do it anyway.”
A process I have used is to write down whatever comes to mind when you ask yourself “Something I am afraid of is _____”. Then use stream of consciousness writing without any filters and keep asking the question when you get stuck until you have written everything down. Remember that if you thought of it there is some issue surrounding it, whether it is a feeling, thought, person or thing. You can go back later and add more fears as they come up for you. Look at the list and see where these fears prevent you from joy, how they influence your decisions, how they affect your response to daily living. These fears are the unconscious result of your life and the people in it but they are not you. Talk to your fears and tell them you are ready to release them, then take each fear and transform it into an affirmation.
Is it an old tape playing in your head that someone else put there when you were a child? Then you need to learn to act rather than react, and I have found affirmations help to re-program your response to fear. In the process we don’t ask for help, but gratefully accept that we have already overcome the fear. For example, if we procrastinate out of our fear of failure, we can say: “I intuitively know what to do first, and I am guided in all subsequent steps by my higher self. I receive all the support that I need in order to complete this project.” You can further cut this down into a mantra: “My intuition guides me in all steps to completion.” Do not use negative words <like not, no, etc> because the universe doesn’t hear the “not.” Instead of “I will not procrastinate” say “I will easily finish my taxes on time.” You can also use visualization and see yourself at the end, reaping the rewards of having finished the project. Another thing you can do is to “feel the fear, but do it anyway.”
A process I have used is to write down whatever comes to mind when you ask yourself “Something I am afraid of is _____”. Then use stream of consciousness writing without any filters and keep asking the question when you get stuck until you have written everything down. Remember that if you thought of it there is some issue surrounding it, whether it is a feeling, thought, person or thing. You can go back later and add more fears as they come up for you. Look at the list and see where these fears prevent you from joy, how they influence your decisions, how they affect your response to daily living. These fears are the unconscious result of your life and the people in it but they are not you. Talk to your fears and tell them you are ready to release them, then take each fear and transform it into an affirmation.
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