If others create the urgency in your life you need to learn to manage them better. Don’t over-promise because you feel like you need to prove yourself. Ask for what you need <like more time to meet a deadline>. Make it known that their lack of organization and their needs don’t create an automatic emergency for you. Let them reap the consequences of their own lack of planning. It’s not necessary to create drama by blowing things out of proportion, but do take care of little annoyances and nip them in the bud before they escalate. You are only a victim if you choose to be one, so don’t automatically buy into everyone else’s need, panic and fear.
If you are the one creating the urgency you need to examine if you are “addicted” to urgency. Do you “should” yourself yet procrastinate? Do you speed because you are always running late? Some people believe they perform better when in crisis mode, but in reality all it does is add unnecessary stress to their lives. These are the people who are always in fast mode even when there is no real need to rush. They don’t like to slow down; they feel “lazy” unless they are doing something.
Take some time and look at how you feel when in a state of urgency. It may be uncomfortable to examine these feelings, but stay with them long enough for you to be able to decide for yourself whether it is a real crisis or not and let the rest go. Learn to say no. Eliminate unimportant commitments and stop trying to fix other people’s problems. Deal with things as they happen so they don’t come back to bite you in the butt later; tie up loose ends. Take things OFF your to do list rather than adding more. Spend some time planning and creating systems. Be realistic about deadlines. Make a conscious effort to slow down and be more present in your current reality. ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED. Make time for fun! Do what you know you should do: eat healthy foods, get enough sleep and get plenty of exercise.
You CAN change your life. Now take a deep breath … and go for a walk!