Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that whatever is in your life is your responsibility – the entire world is your creation. This is tough to understand because blame is far easier than accepting responsibility. The basic premise is: loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.
The process is:
Say "I'm sorry" and "Please forgive me." You say this to acknowledge that something - without you knowing what it is - has gotten into your body/mind system. You have no idea how it got there. You don't need to know, either. You're not asking the Divine to forgive you; you're asking the Divine to help you forgive yourself.
What happens next is up to the Divine. You may be inspired to take action of some sort. Whatever it is, do it. If you aren't sure about the action to take, use this same healing method on your confusion. When you are clear, you'll know what to do. Then say "I love you" and "Thank you." The "I love you" transmutes the energy from stuck to flowing. It reconnects you to the Divine. Since the zero state is one of pure love, and has zero limits, you are beginning to get to that state by expressing love. When you follow that statement with "Thank you," you are expressing gratitude. You are showing your faith that the issue will be resolved for the highest good of all concerned.
For additional information, check website: http://www.hooponopono.org/