I have quite an eclectic group of friends and my love for them is more joyful because I try to avoid drama in my female friendships. Not always possible but I get better at it as I grow older. We share our desires, our fears, our goals … we laugh spontaneously and find joy in simple things … we support each other as we grow. We allow each other the space to be open and authentic. We avoid blame, judgment and control of each other. We encourage each other to dream and fantasize and go for what we want in life. We encourage each other to stay positive and present and to let go of the past and whatever doesn’t serve us right here, right now.
The Five Essentials of Genuine Love <adapted from The Five Things We Cannot Change by David Richo> are attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing … both of ourselves and others. In my opinion, this is a pretty essential guide map toward intimacy. My romantic track record is not so good, probably because of a lack of trust and fear of vulnerability. Hopefully now that I am more aware I can overcome these blocks and find unconditional love this year. Looking back at the list in the previous paragraph, those are good things for romantic love as well. I am ever hopeful … so here are a few love affirmations to consider:
1. I give and receive love expansively.
2. Genuine love comes to me effortlessly.
3. I feel loved and loving all the time.
4. I release all pain from my past love experiences.
Do you have any love affirmations you would like to share?