The focus then becomes what is the lesson learned, rather than placing blame either on themselves or others. They can’t let the shame or disappointment they may feel take over because who they are exists independently of their decision-making process. I ask them to reflect and understand <from a rational rather than emotional viewpoint> why they made the choice they did, forgive themselves, and then move forward. Hopefully next time they will use their intelligence and intuition to choose more mindfully. I guess this same process applies to me as well.
I was reflecting on parenting today and the frustration in dealing with our children’s mistakes. I always tell my kids to choose wisely. I teach them the importance of taking responsibility for their actions and accepting the consequences of their decisions. I remind them that making a mistake doesn’t make them a bad person; they just didn’t make the right choice that time. A decision that results in an unintended outcome is not a reflection of their character.
The focus then becomes what is the lesson learned, rather than placing blame either on themselves or others. They can’t let the shame or disappointment they may feel take over because who they are exists independently of their decision-making process. I ask them to reflect and understand <from a rational rather than emotional viewpoint> why they made the choice they did, forgive themselves, and then move forward. Hopefully next time they will use their intelligence and intuition to choose more mindfully. I guess this same process applies to me as well.
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