Keep it simple. I encourage clients to do a brain dump and write down everything they want in their routine and then pare it down from there. When they first come to me they have usually tried to establish routines before and then totally ignore the routine because it is so overwhelming. We all know there are not enough hours in the day to realistically do everything we are told to do by either our parents, peers or the media. Then we feel guilty because we are not “good enough.” We assume everyone else has it figured out and we are lacking in some way. This is simply not true. We all have different priorities in our lives and can’t rely on outside sources to tell us how to live our ideal life: only we know how to do that. Trust yourself and your intuition.
Don’t judge yourself: make a promise to yourself that you will implement these changes in a loving way. Give yourself some leeway: plan for double the amount of time you think a task will take, than you can be happy and surprised when it takes less time than you thought. Chunk it down into doable baby steps. This way we get our subconscious on board with us and instead of sabotaging us because we have failed so many times before and it doesn’t take us seriously, our subconscious sees steady progress and rockets us to our goals.
Use a calendar. Teach everyone in your household to check it regularly. Have that as part of your routine if you regularly forget to look at it.
Take some time in the next few days to make a simple routine for yourself. Trust me when I say: you’ll be glad you did. Only when you have established those basic habits, you can choose to add a few more things … one step at a time.